It’s nothing personal.

This is for the loved ones of those with ADHD.

Yesterday, I sat with my husband and tried to just talk.  We are so busy doing things, we hardly ever just talk.  Ten minutes into it, I could tell his mind was elsewhere.  I let him know it looked like he was somewhere else mentally.  He said he was.  I asked what was going on, and he said he was “bored.”  “Ouch,” I said.

Then I remembered something.  It’s nothing personal.  I know hong-kong-1990268_1920what I tried to share with him would be quite fascinating to another psychology-lover.  But my husband has ADHD and becomes easily bored with things less exciting than a book such as The Martian.

He also prefers action to talk.  It’s hard to keep his attention.

As Thom Hartmann, author of The Edison Gene, points out those with ADHD constantly monitor the environment for what’s of high stimulation, with a swift ability to turn to these things.  If this high stimulation or need to act is lacking, they may shut down on you.  Kind of like your computer going into sleep mode.  When this happens, breathe and begin breakdancing (attention-getter!) or relax and remind yourself it’s nothing personal.  Really.  Their brains are just tuned to a different frequency.

 

Author: Tonya Lippert

With the publication of TRANSFORMING ADHD, I have crossed into the world of authorship, and, with this, blogging. My hope is that others find my sharing of resources, research and reflection of use. By workday, I am a mental health therapist, a part-time researcher, and a forensic interviewer. During my alone time, I am an aspiring author of children's picture books. I value close connection, compassion, kindness, reducing suffering, adventure, courage and playfulness. I want to live, and to help others to live, a rich, full and meaningful life.

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